Dealing with conflict is a hard path.
There’s logic, and reason, and rational thinking. There’s pros and cons, and fors and againsts. There’s clear thinking and good advice.
And then there’s reality.
It’s always emotional.
The bigger the question … the more Kirk, less Spock.
Accept emotions in the opening, deal with them (hint: let them go) in the middle, so when you get to the end game … more Spock, less Kirk.
Skippy Strategy: Deal with the emotions, decide with the facts.