There’s critiquing, and there’s criticising.
Critiquing involves the detailed analysis and assessment of something. It’s looking for holes to be filled in and hard edges to be built on. It can be a cold hard light but it’s purpose is to get to a better solution. Afterwards, the path is forwards to more brave choices and better solutions.
Criticising also looks at faults, but there’s a disapproval that underlines the downsides and undermines confidence. Afterwards, it’s natural to retreat to safer ground with dull, don’t-look-at-me choices.
Thing is … it’s as much about the hearer as the speaker.
If you want, you can take every input as criticism, every “yes and” as a “no but”, every thoughtful comment as a thoughtless barb. And, you can take every “doh!” as an invitation to look anew and find a better angle.
Everyone has opinions – treat them as input, and work out your own.
Skippy strategy: Invite critics, either way.
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